A Stuttering Success with TalkPower

Dear Natalie
 I wanted to follow up from last Thursday, when I brought my nearly 14 year old nephew in for a speech coaching. He has suffered for nearly 10 years with a stutter, especially in front of his peers in class or with strangers and under stressful conditions in general. You taught him your technique in the space of an hour session. Today is 4 days since he saw you and I have noticed a marked improvement in his speech patterns. His parents have both also remarked on it, especially his mother who pays particular attention to his speech. When I asked him how he feels, he also said that he felt that the physical exercises you instructed him on have helped him speak more clearly. I have been amazed at how effective your technique has been in such a short time. My nephew has been seeing speech pathologists on a regular basis since the age of 7 and he has not seen much improvement. So I am that much more impressed that you have been able to improve my nephew's speech so much more with 1 visit than 7 years of speech pathologist sessions. He also had a speech improvement device, the SpeechEasy, fit which did very little for him. All that time and expense over the years, not to mention the emotional trauma experienced by my nephew, I wish I had known about you 10 years ago. I believe your technique can change the quality of life for so many who suffer from this condition, and I wish that it could be made more widely known and available, especially to children like my nephew. I am very grateful to you for having done this for my nephew, and I am looking forward to him learning and improving even more with your workshop.
Warmest regards,
Stan Altan
http://www.talkpowerinc.com/stuttering.html

How can I get over my anxiety before I get up to speak ?

There are two reasons why you are so anxious as you sit and wait for your name to be called.

The first reason is that you are probably Hyper Ventilating . This means that your stomach is probably locked and  as you breath , you are using your chest to do the pumping.  This triggers the fight or flight response . The Flight or Fight response is  an ancient survival mechanism that prepares you to run away or fight in the face of a threat of danger .As a result  your body  manufactures  adrenalin and sugar which    pours into your blood steam . making your heart beat very quickly . If you were doing a  cardio vascular exercise like running or swimming you would neutralize this adrenaline .But when you  are  stationary ,sitting  in your seat wiring for your turn to speak  either at a meeting or for a stand up presentation  the  inner acceleration you are  feeling builds up causing you to   feel anxious ,trapped and out of control .Of course there are varying degrees of this feeling from mild to extreme and even to the point of dread .

.Deep breathing will not work here because  if you are taking deep breaths using your chest to do the pumping Deep Breathing   will only exacerbate your rapid heartbeat and increase your  feelings of anxiety.

What to do . What you need to do is to practice  taking  slow  shallow breaths ,keeping your chest as still as possible and using your abdominal muscles to do the pumping this is also called " Diaphragmatic breathing When you pull your stomach in you should be blowing your breath out of your nose . When you relax your abdominal muscles you should be inhaling a very small amount of air. If this is not the way you normally breath then you are  breathing incorrectly.  (See chapter four "Breath Is Life" in" The New Talkpower  "Amazon .com .If you learn  how to breathe in this way ,  when  you sit in your seat waiting for your name to be called you will experience  a reduction in your anxiety
A good time to practice this technique is at night when you are in bed  before you go to sleep . Try to do 50 or more of these "belly breaths " . You will have a much less stress infused  sleeping experience.
                                       PERFORMANCE  SKILLS 

The other reason that you have feelings of anxiety  before a presentation is because you do not have performance skills  for focusing and concentration , and are using your conversational skills to get you through your presentation.

I other words if   you are not trained  to properly  handle the experience of people looking  at you (an audience )  your attention will be focused on the audience and not  on your presentation .At this time  your thoughts usually  are extremely negative . .My clients report thinking....., "I am so boring .........,I did not do enough research ........., They don't like me ........,I am taking up too much of their time ......,I have to get this over with in a hurry , And many other negative and truly frightening thoughts ..These thoughts act as a huge distraction , interfering   with your concentration,  ruining  your confidence and  creating a  tendency to speak too  quickly in addition to  other problems .  Even though you may be breathing correctly if you do not have the proper focusing  and concentration skills you will find ourself feeling  unsure and anxious no matter how many times you have rehearsed your presentation .As far as visualization  ,positive thinking  video - rehearsals and therapy  are concerned as you may  have discovered ,  these techniques are of very little value ..
.In my 25 years of experience with thousands of Talkpower clients 95 % of them report that   for the anxious speaker  these modalities  are totally useless in that  moment of truth when you are about to face a real audience .
Suggestions :The Talkpower Training  Workshop through exersises  and repetition drills will give you the proper performance skills  necessary  for transforming  your anxious out of control public speaking performance into a fluent presentation  that is confident ,  well organized and above all in control..The Workshop is guaranteed .If you are not happy after the first half day you will receive a complete refund. See TalkPower Inc.